Call Tyrone?

Dear Carnal Counsel,
I went on a date with a guy I really dug. We really got along and agreed on the things that are important to us in relationships-especially honesty. He ended buying quite a few drinks so the night ended with sloppy sesh. We didn't go "all the way" but it was definitely in the plans. We parted this morning and I haven't heard from him since. Should I acredit this to another "hottie hookup" with a smooth talker? He agreed in my belief in the utmost honesty--should I call him?

How awesome is it you found someone that fits you intellectually and sexually? He sounds like a hottie.

We've all been there. Drink a little too much and move too quickly with the boy you wanted to take "slowly." Its unfortunate. Perhaps we should all adopt the philosophy that you only put out quickly with a boy you're not really interested in. That way, you get all of the bullshit out of the way. If its a problem, claim it went "too fast."

Getting drunk and moving too quickly doesn't mean you're slutty. It means you're wild and carefree. Boys love that. I think. Either way, play it cool.

I would give it the industry standard and wait a few days. No need to put the pressure on either one of you. It sounds like you're falling hard. He's probably falling hard too. No matter what he's feeling, he's trying to play it cool too.

Just wait a few (days, minutes, hours, whatever) and contact him--if he doesn't contact you first. Be casual and just ask "wanna hang out?" Keep it light.

Or just lurk him out on myspace and make a non-threatening friend request in a day or so.

He wanted to date you, he'll be reasonable with your request. If he's lame enough to use you only for that evening, at least you've learned he wasn't worth your time in less than week.



This all being said, if you're getting the itch and you really believe you're being dishonest by ceasing contact --go with your gut. What could go wrong?
Good luck!